Time for Business!

This has been such a weird journey. I started this blog and its Facebook page over three years ago. I had no goals in mind. Just going with the flow, and following my inner guidance.

I am building my own business doing jewelry, astrology, and card reading, and writing when I feel I have something to say. I have been wanting to offer a website and online store of my own, and am doing things that can lead to that. I recently started CBD oil and am looking to affiliate with companies to make it available to order from me.

In the meantime, I am pleased to announce affiliation with The Mystical Moon Store. They have locations in Florida, but their online store is amazing!! Crystals, sage, candles, oils, books, Tarot/Oracle cards… pretty much all the things. Check it out!

The Mystical Moon Store

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Looking at the Big Picture.

My professional life, such as it is, has been a whirlwind of both chaos and amazing in the last couple years. Serious ups and downs. From losing my 5th job in seven years because of drinking… to not drinking and owning an international business. It can be said I am an international jewelry designer now, By the Indigo Moon, LLC. My astrology page, The Sober Astrologer, is reaching 1,000 likes on Facebook. There was a recent time I wanted to stop all of this, but I received strong support from people around the world asking me to keep going. Thank you. 🙏

Looking at current transits, and looking back at the last couple years, the inconsistency makes sense. I’ve “been in business” nine months now, but I’m still $1,000 in the red. Mostly the legal fees and office set-up costs. I just haven’t got with it fully yet. I get in my own way and hold myself back. I struggle to determine my worth for astrology teachings and card readings.

Three of the four points on the chart are my natals: Mars/IC/Jupiter, Saturn/Sun, and MC. Uranus in transit completes this kite. It has been in effect for a couple years now at varying strengths. It was destined/determined by the North Node transiting Leo, and solidified by Saturn’s transit in late Sagittarius. And now I feel it being energized by this current Mars transit, approaching my MC at 29° Sagittarius. It’s time for me to fly. 😍🙏

If you wish to support my work going forward, I am looking into Patreon options. Also, I have a PayPal account for donations: PayPal here.

Cheers to Three Years.

I almost forgot to acknowledge this date, February 20. It was three years ago I started this blog and my Facebook page to support it. It too was called By the Indigo Moon, like this blog. I added LLC to it last year when I obtained the status.

What a wild ride it has been the last three years. I had just lost my third job in this city due to my drinking problem. I ‘tried to quit’ but started drinking again in my binge patterns after 5 months. I had an ER visit and now have lifetime health issues due to irresponsible drinking. I lost two more jobs because of my drinking. I made the choice again Labor Day 2016 that I was done, at all costs. I haven’t had a job since then. I am on meds to help anxiety and PTSD, which I know now is the main trigger to me drinking. I was briefly off meds and relapsed once last summer. My new sober date is July 8, 2017.

Three years ago I started this blog because I wanted to write about my life, mixed with some astrology. I was soon inspired to start working with crystals, which led to Spiritual Medium classes and Reiki Mastership, and now I have my own business to make Reiki bracelets and read Oracles and Tarot.

I quickly became uninspired to write for a lot of reasons; looking back it was possibly my Neptune Square fogging over my direction. This is now finally complete. His next Retro will come very close, but it won’t exact again. It could also be that I was trying to take on the world, spreading my energy too thin. I find my head clearing. I am learning my boundaries and what I need to do moving forward.

Relapse to Realization.

*This is going to be kind of long.* 🙈

As you may know, I came to the realization over Labor Day weekend 2016 that I cannot drink anymore for medical reasons. For some time it was a battle. I stopped working and some days my entire focus was on staying sober. What you may not know (or maybe you do) is that I probably should have been on medication all this whole time, my whole adult life.

Like so many others, I drank so hard as a way to self-medicate. I believe I have undiagnosed anxiety issues. Misdiagnosed in my teenage years as bipolar. Wrongly medicated then, which is why I resisted meds for so long since. I had a drinking-related ER visit last summer. I finally followed up with my doctor in the spring. Long story short, I had an anxiety attack while I was there. They gave me some meds to try for my anxiety.

By the time summer came, things were very different, in all the best ways. The meds are so great for me. I don’t even care about drinking, as long as I stay away from it. I still cringe to go to the grocery store, past all the booze. Especially now with the gift boxes for Christmas. It really sucks that its such a part of society. Anyway… by the time summer came, I ran out of the three month’s prescriptions. I didn’t know what to do, so I just didn’t do anything. I felt like I was strong enough after ten months sober to try going off the meds. BAD IDEA.

My home is rather unique, and easy to party in. Summer means pool parties or lazy nights on the patio listening to the woods behind the house. I relapsed. After ten months. The disappointment on my husband’s face (again) was so hard. Not only that, the shame I felt because I sometimes tried to hype myself up as Ms. Sober. I had to swallow my pride and start over. I went back on my meds.

I turned 40 in August, and had a mostly fabulous trip to St. Pete Beach, Florida. Our future home. We took my best female friend and her mom with. Awesome times. One of my meds is once a day. The other is three times a day. Early on in the trip, I slacked on the second medication. I took it in the AM with the other but not the two doses the rest of the day. That caught up to me on Day Three. I wasted much of it crying on my balcony, wishing I could drink. I realized then that these meds are actually working miracles. I am truly thankful that I have found something and not bouncing medication to medication. I hate to talk about this because of the stigma attached, and also because again I am swallowing my pride. For so long I bucked medication because I was on the wrong medications. A few people have told me to not feel bad being on meds, that it’s a tool in a toolbox, so why not.

Fully full disclosure, I chose to have one drink, a martini, on the last night of our trip. I wanted one LAST drink, to salute our trip, my 30s, my 40s, and my little family that I have in my life away from my hometown. I thought long and hard about it, and prayed a lot. I asked for the strength for one and done. Not just that night, but the next day when we went back home and all the days after. One last drink. I did it, and so far I’m still successful. I wouldn’t have done it if I was in a bad mindset. I wanted to on my birthday but I knew it would have not been good. That was August 27, so at the time of this writing I am officially back over three months again now. I do take my meds faithfully. It took a relapse and a could have been another relapse to realize I am someone who benefits from mental health meds. Sometimes meditation, stones, positive thinking, etc. just aren’t enough.

Speaking of stones, being on the meds helps block the obsessive drinking thoughts, and allows me to focus on my true self. My most inner self and what makes me happy. I have founded my own company. My own brand, based on the name of this blog. By the Indigo Moon, LLC. Official. I already have orders, domestic and international. I never thought I could be an international jewelry designer. My intentions for my company are to make crystal healing bracelets for people, to help people heal with Reiki (I am a Reiki Master), to help people learn about crystal healing and astrology, and to help give them guidance and support via Tarot, Oracles, and just being awesome with memes. You can find me on social media at:

Facebook: By the Indigo Moon, LLC

Instagram: bytheindigomoonllc

FB group: By the Indigo Sun… This name is slightly different because it’s a closed group. I don’t want to take a chance of someone accidentally putting sensitive info on the public business page instead of the closed private group for discussion.

Thank you for reading. A long time, sober, friend of mine suggested it is my duty to talk about my relapse. So I write this for her. I write this for anyone who thinks they are strong enough to go back to casual drinking. If you can, good for you. I can’t. Maybe me telling my story helps someone realize they too cannot, and I can save them from the shame of relapse. It took me a relapse to realize.

If you like my works and would like to support, I have a PayPal.

The Day I Defied Death, Twice

This day may as well be my new birthday. It was on this date in two different years of my life that I defied death.

July 24, 2002. I would classify this as a Near-Death Experience. Long story short, I was with my ex-boyfriend at the time. He choked me in an argument, and I lost consciousness. I did not see light or anything like that, not that I remember. But what I do remember is blackness, with my Self-talk saying I have to get back to my best friend. “I gotta get back to Tani,” just over and over until it did lighten up as I fully regained consciousness. I was re-born that day, as I realized I do have true purpose in this world. That I am important to my best friend and he needed me back by his side.

July 24, 2016. Completely different experience. Completely different life. But anxiety likely related to that past relationship had grown and taken its toll. I lost my way, and kind of drifted along. Tani is still very much my best friend, but he has grown into himself now. I also have importance to my niece, but she is far away too, as Tani is. I was lost in the bottle. Binge drinking for 6+ years.

This day was the last day of my last mega-binge. I drank a lot over the last 2-3 days. I did work my bartending shifts, but my self-care lacked. I didn’t eat much, and I didn’t stop for water breaks during my busy shifts. So I basically was drinking coffee or alcohol. Straight.

As I closed my shift that Saturday night, I took one shot and went home. I was doing laundry that night, but I also had a bottle of apple vodka in the laundry room. I would take a shot, or a second one, as I flipped the loads. Next thing you know, I am passed out on the floor of my dining room bar.

I took a nap and powered up for our traditional Sunday Fundays at our pool. I realized I actually drank about half that bottle in about 3-4 hours the night before. The shot glass was actually more like 2-2.5 shots. But in my mind, “it was only one.”

What felt like a normal hangover eventually proved to be much worse. I went to the ER days later to find all kinds of internal damage. I have had a few drinking episodes since, a total of five, and I now realize that I cannot drink ever again because it aggravates the damage done back then.

I was re-born into someone who (obviously) cannot drink, but can help others find their way, be it via learning their birth chart, finding stones that resonate, making pretty things, Reiki, giving Tarot/Oracle readings…. Or maybe just being awesome. It is Leo Season, after all.

Feeling Free

I have been studying astrology for over five years now. I was sure to use my time as noted on my certificate and learned as much as I could about that chart. I came to identify so strongly with it…. for the most part. As I wrote yesterday, I have decided to test a theory. What if I were actually born four minutes earlier?

This gives a new chart. Not much changes, but a couple things change in a big way. The more I look into the changes, the stronger I identify with this new chart. This new persona. Being Pisces Rising, maybe I really do have the heart of a mermaid. 

I was living a conflicted life, which got even more conflicting the more I learned astrology. Maybe I knew deep inside I’m not Aries Rising. Since I changed the time in my Astro account and began to identify with this chart, I feel myself opening up and feeling free like never before. Just in time for Leo Season, my favorite. 😉

Four Minutes.

I officially did it… I overrode the time on my birth certificate and changed the time in my Astro account to reflect a time 4 minutes sooner. I did this after a lot of reflecting and soul searching. It is a huge deal, because it changes my angles.

The time on my certificate gives me Aries rising 1°45 and Cap MC 0°53. I resonated to the Aries but not the Capricorn. Aries is the ruler of the decans of my Sun/Saturn in Leo and Moon/Neptune in Sagittarius. Easy to feel an Aries influence. But I associate MC in Capricorn to be someone who has goals and ambitions. I never really have had any. 

The new time gives me Pisces rising 29°56 and Sagittarius MC 29°58. I easily resonate to the Sag MC because of the fluidity of ambition. You would think it would be easy to know if I were Pisces rising instead. But I have Moon/Neptune in exact conjunction, with Neptune being stationed. So that is a huge Pisces influence, even if I were truly Aries rising. I am both fire dominant and mutable dominant, without even factoring the ASC.

I read what it means to have Pisces rising. It rang so true. Source after source. I went back and re-read Aries rising, which I have identified with for over five years. I realize it may not be so true, after all.

So let this be a lesson to not assume your time if you want full accuracy. Even if your time is noted on your certificate, if something feels off chances are it could very well be. You know yourself best, and when it’s right you will know. I feel this is right.

I am working on verifying this new time via progressions and however else I can. If the time noted on the certificate ends up verifying, I will eat crow and report back. 😂😂

The Personal Horoscopes

The word ‘horoscope’ can mean a lot of things, but it all seems to mean the same thing. How can we expect the day/week/month/year to be. If you’re reading this, chances are you’ve at least looked at one in a newspaper or magazine before. But what if it doesn’t seem to make sense for you? It is generalized. Taking 12 signs basically groups us in general, taking only one object into account with the current skies.

To get the best possible horoscope for yourself, the individual, we need your location and time of birth, in addition to the date. Why is time important? You know there are 12 days a year when the Sun changes signs. I was born on one of them. Four hours later I would have a different Sun sign. The Moon changes signs every 2.5 days. For example, there is a big difference between Cancer Moon and Leo Moon. Time matters.

The biggest reason time matters is the Ascendant, or rising sign. This changes every two hours! The Ascendant is where the chart begins, the 1st house. I have an astro-twin friend, meaning we were born the exact same day, about 9 hours apart. We share Sun and all the planetary placements. Her Moon is only 5° away, but in transits that matters. The big difference of our charts is she has Scorpio rising. She was born midday when her Leo Sun was high in the sky. I am Aries rising. I was born right after sunset. This places her Sun in the 10th house, where mine is in the 6th. There are many, many things different about us, but we still are similar in some ways. What resonates for her may not for me, and vice versa. Time definitely matters.

When you have your chart made with the time included, there are a few ways to look at a horoscope for yourself. You. Not the other millions of Leos or whichever Sun sign. The Solar Return looks at the moment the Sun Returns to the natal position of your chart. It can be the day before, day of, or day after your birthday. You can look at this chart independently, and also compare it to your natal or progressed charts to see what kind of year you can expect. You can play with dates to see the years before.

To condense it down to monthly instead, you can make a Lunar Return chart. This looks at the position of the Moon each month when it Returns to your natal position. (This will end up being different from my friend’s.)

This is my upcoming Lunar Return, to be exact a little over three hours from the time of this writing. The almost-full moon is coming into its orb, the degrees of difference between two aspects. 11th house Moon here in this chart, so perhaps my 11th house themes of friends and network will be highlighted. Sun and Mars in the 6th, active month. Supportive of starting my business. Pluto in the 1st maybe there will be a fundamental transformation. Jupiter at his station point in the 9th. Fuel for expansion in my 9th house themes. Mercury in the 5th suggests my communication will be expressed creatively. Venus on the IC maybe I will work to make the things close to my heart more beautiful. And you gotta love a Capricorn Ascendant when you need to handle business.

Like I said, I can apply this also to my natal and progressed charts for further insights, like a typical transit chart. That would be a whole ‘nother post, so maybe it’s better to leave off here. Thank you for reading. 💚

As Life Progresses…

Astrology is pretty much a never-ending study. Sun sign astrology is increasingly a big part of the mainstream, but actually the rabbit hole goes deep. We can learn about birth charts, Moon signs, rising signs, and all the planets, points, and angles that make us individual people. 

Once we have a good grasp on the chart and all it contains, we can learn about transits. Transits are what the sky map looks like right now. Also if we place this sky map onto our chart, we see how the planets are transiting ours at the current moment, or any moment. This is how horoscopes are crafted. I love to play with dates and see the astrology in action in my life. Now I have progressed on to… Progressions. The progressed chart. 

Think of your natal chart like your Self. Your naked body as you came into this world. Nothing will ever change about this, and everything comes back to this. The progressed chart is like the clothes you put on. They change over time, and seem to represent the evolution of our personalities. The calculation of the progressed chart is generally speaking a day for a year, to progress the chart one day for each year of your life. I am currently 39, so the progressed chart is ran for 39 days after I was born. Obviously the change isn’t only an immediate, once-a-year event, but rather little by little every day. So it is further broken down to four minutes each day. My progressed chart from yesterday is ran for four minutes earlier than today’s chart. Make sense? I use the astro dot com site to see the progressed charts.

This is my progressed chart for the date of this writing. The outer planets haven’t moved much from my natal placements. Other than Mercury, all the personal planets have changed signs. I can see their effects in my life. My Leo Sun may be a little more peaceful and fair having progressed into Libra, for example. My progressed Ascendant has been Gemini for the last two years. I am still very much Aries rising, but now with a Gemini twist.

The Moon spends about 2.5 days in each sign. As reflected in the progressed chart, the Moon spends about 2.5 years in each sign. Day for a year, remember? Two days ago, my progressed Moon entered Gemini. I can expect myself to be more Gemini in my feelings in the next couple years. I can also compare the progressed to my natal to see potential stressful times. The last few months saw my progressed Taurus Moon in square to my natal Leo Saturn and Sun, so that wasn’t always fun.

I like Gemini energy, so I am excited for this cycle. Especially once progressed Moon crosses into my progressed 1st house in August. If you would like to learn more, come find me on Facebook. 💚

One Step Closer

I legally incorporated my business two weeks ago, the day of the Scorpio Full Moon. We held off opening our business bank account for various reasons. We opened it today, and I will just thank the Universe, for once again validating astrology in my life…

This is the chart for around the time we went to the bank. The Moon has moved on now, but at that time was still in Leo… therefore locked into this beautiful Kite. It also makes sense to have done it now, with the Moon waxing, as opposed to waning as it would have been had we done it right away. Also, Mercury and Pluto just exacted their trine, and with my Mercury make a Grand Trine in effect now for only a couple days.

I’ve wrote about this Kite before, and what it means for me and my Natal chart. With my Mars, IC/MC, Jupiter, Saturn, and Sun involved, my Kite has flown just a little higher. I’m one step closer. 😍🙏